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Dove's 'Legacy' Campaign Shows Moms What Their Daughters Really See In Them

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Does how you talk about your body impact how your kids feel about theirs? A new Dove campaign makes the case that it does, and that it's time to start changing the conversation for the next generation's sake.

In the Dove: Legacy campaign's short film, released Sept. 30, the company asked five women and their daughters to individually write two separate lists: one for things they like about their bodies, and one for things they dislike. The moms identified "big" legs, "wonky" eyes, "bingo" arms and other areas of their bodies they thought were problematic. But when they each read off their daughter's list, they discovered that the girls -- none of whom look like they could be much older than 10 -- had those same anxieties about their own bodies.

"We both don't like our nose, I think. I don't like my arms, and she doesn't like her arms either," said one of the moms, gazing down at the lists she was comparing in either hand. "Well, I did say to her I don't like these things, these body parts of mine, and I think that's why she probably picked it up."



According to a company press release, Dove's research has shown that when girls have a positive, body-confident role model in their lives, their concerns about their own appearance are much less likely to inhibit them. The short film's findings serve to underscore the research and send a powerful message about how self-esteem is passed down generation to generation.

"Self-worth and beauty, it is an echo. It can echo from me to them, and from them to others," one of the moms said in the film, suggesting that one woman's positivity might have a far-reaching ripple effect.

Dove launched this campaign ahead of its Fifth Annual Self-Esteem Weekend, Oct. 9 - 12 at the United Nations. In addition to the film and a social media push asking women who they #FeelBeautifulFor, Dove is partnering with experts to offer free self-esteem-boosting resources both online and in workshops.

“Whether a mother, aunt, coach, teacher, or sister, all women can set a positive example for the next generation by expressing their own beauty with confidence,” said Jennifer Bremner, Dove's director of marketing. “Dove has long been dedicated to fostering positive self-esteem in women and girls, and we invite all women to join us in making a difference to the next generation by ensuring their own beauty legacy is a positive one.”

The Beauty of Consumption: Thoughts on Food Porn

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Today the "food porn" phenomenon has overtaken every form of communication, thanks to social media. Take a quick scroll through your Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook feed, and you'll see photo after photo of your friends' lunches and dinners -- filter not optional. Why are we, as humans, so obsessed with taking and sharing photos of our food? As a makeup artist, I have been pondering this question as it also applies to beauty. What is it about a close-up image of a baked powder blush that makes us want to run to our nearest Neiman Marcus and swipe our credit card? Why do we feel the need to document and share our impulsive buy with friends and strangers on social media?

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In today's digital age, the ability to share information is easy. We can share news of a life-altering experience, like a wedding, new career, a big move, or let everyone know that today, we decided on an extra shot of espresso in our morning latte (one just wouldn't cut it). This (sometimes excessive) sharing of information is not new -- human beings have been recording their experiences and sharing them with past and future generations since the beginning of time. Keeping records of our lives and experiences is the foundation of our culture -- it's how we keep track of our accomplishments, how we track time, how we track trends. So, what is driving us to ingest this information?

In the same way humans feel it necessary to document, we feel the need to consume. We are consistently sharing and seeking out information. We consume food both physically and visually, and the same is true for makeup. Texture and color drives our need for certain foods the way that it does for beauty products. Seeing a photo of ice cream deliciously drenched and dripping in hot fudge immediately hijacks our brains, convincing us that we need that ice cream cone. We can almost taste it just by looking at it! Stumbling across a highly pigmented, luxurious lipstick that looks so creamy you can practically feel the product gliding across your lips as you're staring at the photo has the same affect. What brand is this? What shade is this? Where can I get it?

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Alluring imagery isn't the only factor driving us to go out and indulge in that ice cream cone or sprint to the makeup counter to purchase that lipstick. It's the experience of allowing yourself the satisfaction of having the ice cream cone, the excitement of knowing how sexy you're going to feel once you apply that coat of lipstick. It's all about experience, a memorable moment, and the emotions attached to it. When we look at our friends' Instagram photos of mimosas and bellinis at brunch, we aren't simply lusting after the cool and refreshing beverages, we are lusting after the activity, the event. When makeup junkies look at a photo of a brush roll, they're admiring more than just the aesthetic of the image or the texture and color of the brushes -- they're thinking about what they can and will create with those tools. Who will they become today? How do they want to feel? Will they apply a dark, seductive smokey eye and transport themselves to Hollywood's most exclusive social circles? Or will they opt for a luminous, bronzed complexion and mentally jet away to the coast of Bora Bora?

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Whether we're obsessing over how delicious our meal looks thanks to the Lo-Fi filter, or how this lighting makes our contour look just right, our need to share and consume boils down to our need to experience. So go on and Instagram a selfie with your favorite new lipstick and that kale smoothie you just bought -- the double taps await!

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The Four Items Karolina Kurkova Can't Live Without

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Great style is what one would expect during New York Fashion Week, but there are always a few select people who raise the style bar year after year. Karolina Kurkova is one of those people. Whether she's hitting the red carpet at one of the week's hottest parties or sitting front row at a show alongside the likes of Anna Wintour, the supermodel is always impeccably turned out in looks that are equal parts chic and cool. Naturally, we were overjoyed when we recently had the chance to chat one-on-one with the supermodel about her flawless off-duty style and the items she can't live without this season -- consider it a master lesson in effortless fall dressing.

1. How would you describe your street style?

My style is ever-evolving and changing. It's a mix of classic elegance with a modern twist. I love structured pieces, but I also love styles that are sporty and effortless.

2. What is your off-duty uniform?

I can't live without a pair of white jeans, oversized button down, and my grey Fontana A-line bag. I complete the look with a classic pump or statement sneaker. As a mom, it's important for me to be stylish, yet comfortable. A bigger bag allows me to look chic yet throw my son's things inside!

3. What are your top 5 go-to brands right now?

I am a fan of so many, but recently I have been loving Victor & Rolf, Acne, Dion Lee, Celine, Alexander Wang, Victoria Beckham, and Cushnie et Ochs.

4. What is your must-have item for fall?

A classic oversized coat and a leather Jose Sanchez jacket are two go-to pieces that are perfect for layering. Flat boots, a yummy, thick Carven sweater and a white, crisp button down complete the perfect fall look.

5. Who is your style icon?

Cate Blanchett is one of my favorites - she's eternally elegant without having to try.

6. What do you do to prep your skin before a big event like New York Fashion Week? Any favorite products?

I believe in prevention and starting early to care for your skin. Facials, steam and exfoliation on a regular basis helps get rid of my dead skin and illuminates my face. I use a lot of natural, active beauty products like fruit-enzyme based masks. I also wash my face with cold water to wake up, refresh and tighten my pores.

7. Do you have any styling tricks to help make an outfit look runway ready?

Always make sure every piece you put on your body fits your figure and persona. You'll feel most confident when you are comfortable and love what you're wearing!

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I Love My Black-A** Hair

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Earlier this year, I wrote about the moment I realized I fell into hair complacency and the subsequent paranoia of ethnic hairstyles being "too black" for corporate. Despite having a very serious internal dialogue about how my talent, experience and interviewing skills should be the only factors that lead to my employment, I still worried about how potential interviewers would perceive me. I got microbraids for about a month in January (while I was still gainfully employed) and it was fine. I went back to my regular hair and then, I lost my job.

Oh no! What did that mean for the future of my tresses? At that point in time I couldn't fix myself to care any less because I was headed to Croatia to do baller things and swim in the Adriatic Sea. I got micros again -- and I found a better stylist to do it. And baybay, lemme tell you... I got my whole entire life with those micros. I even interviewed for, and landed a job. They were shoulder-length, with soft curls at the edges. The look was very soft and romantic. I wasn't worried about looking "too black," I just couldn't get over my hair being "too pretty." I kept those braids in for about two months and in that time I concluded that I no longer wanted to do my hair daily. I deferred to my two homegirls who are the queens of crochet braids. My bestie's fiancé always has a bomb crochet 'do so I settled on a style and headed across town to meet the stylist.

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Full disclosure, I hated the hair I chose for my first crochet job. I looked like a black cherub doll with 5.5 packs of "candy curl" in my head. So, I decided to take the hair out (I kept the cornrows), and follow the Marley hair trend. It being my first attempt at "crocheting" hair at all, the installation process took me a few hours... and almost three packs of hair. I was a lioness, baby. Chaka Kahn in her prime. I had a 4/30 batch of Lord & Cliff Hip Hop Braid and it was going down. I knew I was doing corkscrews the following day, but I decided to let the fro fly as I went to celebrate my homeboy's birthday at my favorite bar. I walked in the door and the alarms rang -- metaphorically speaking, of course. Everyone, I mean everyone was in love with my wild, massive hair. I couldn't believe it.

I went ahead and did the corkscrews (with the perm rods & hot water) the next day and they looked cute, but I didn't feel as edgy as I did with the big hair. I was already situated in my job (at a community college, btw) so I said why not, and decided to go full Marley hair... at work! My girl suggested I bring it down to 1.5 packs of hair. Oh, and I also migrated to the 4/27 blend to give me some good brown & gold contrast. This is the "blackest" my hair has ever been, in my life and I freaking love it. So do the boys. I promise I've been hit on more in the past 30 days than I have been in three months. Advantage, me.

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Quia Querisma is the globetrotting, techie-fashionista who writes about travel, style, and sometimes cocktails at MyJetSetStyle.com.

August Getty: The Next Generation of Fashion

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Natalia & August Getty (photo credit: Brad Hammer)


August Getty is still reeling with excitement from his first showing at New York Fashion Week. At a mere 20-years-old, August is one of the youngest designers to show on a main stage during this prestigious event. Knowing that August is such a talented and colorful character, I thought it would be fitting to introduce him to all of you.

It is a Saturday night, about 9 p.m., and August greets me at his front door wearing Adidas running pants, a hoodie, and a long blonde wig. He leads me through his perfectly manicured front garden, where I spot his dear friend, Vicky Vox, in the media room. We wave to each other through the huge glass doors. As we enter the house, I ask August where he would like to do the interview. "The kitchen," he says. "I'm Italian and I love the kitchen, it makes me feel at home and reminds me of my mom." As we make our way there, I cannot help but notice all the beautiful art. (He is a Getty after all)

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Shaun Ross, August Getty, Whoopi Goldberg, Jerzey Dean, Perez Hilton (photo credit: Zimbio)


The ambience is beautiful and warm, as we walk into the kitchen. Fresh cinnamon is boiling on the stove and gorgeous orchids are in full bloom on the granite-topped island. August recommends I try a glass of Moscato and pours it into a Versace wine glass. I offer a toast, "To your wig." We both laugh.

I figured I might as well start off by addressing the elephant in the room-the wig. I ask August about it and, he candidly replies, "I always have wig parties. Wearing a wig makes me feel comfortable." I think to myself, this is clearly a young man who is comfortable in his own skin, but what about the seemingly intimidating New York Fashion community, is he as comfortable around them? "I am still in a delirium and high from it all," he says. "I felt very comfortable and welcomed into the fashion world; I really am blessed. Even so, I try not to take things for granted. I actually have a funny story about that." I nod and smile as he continues, "On the night of my show I was the first one at the venue and I show up to the front door carrying multiple items. The security did not think I was part of the team. I stood there for a really long time because I didn't want to offend him, but finally I had to tell him that I was the designer for the show."

Wow! So, here I sit with a humble 20-year-old, from one of the most affluent families in the history of the United States. It is not every day you come across someone like this, especially in Los Angeles. As August lights up a Marlboro Light I ask him to talk about how he came to be a fashion designer. "I used to dress up metal forks by making gowns out of napkins," he laughs and takes another drag. "I also would cut up my mom's silk shoe bags and make couture gowns for Barbie dolls." I smile at this and tell August that my father was never very happy when I would play with Barbie's. "Luckily, my family has been supportive of my ways of expression. It helped that my sister and muse (Natalia) took over the tomboy role, but I was creative before I knew of the word gay. Gay is not a description of one's personality or of one's traits, it is simply one's sexuality," he responds. "Amen" I say. We clank our glasses and I propose a toast to August, "a true artist."

Immediately August reacts, "Don't you think that people today have abused the word artist? It is a shame that recently I have become embarrassed to say that word." I am intrigued as he continues, "Forgive me for being a little religious at this moment, but I believe an artist is a vessel, we are the vehicle to deliver a thought an inspiration, a movement. In the past I felt more in love with the word love. And my sketches now are less about my journey with love and more about the woman who will be wearing it. It is no longer about me. I cannot masturbate with my own art any more. This is for you."

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August Getty, Spring 2015 (photo credit: mbfashionweek.com)


Well, it seems fitting for me to have a cigarette after that statement, so I light up. As I go to ash, I notice that, even the damn ashtray is Versace! Although, it seems pretty clear at this point, I ask August if Versace is his favorite designer? He replies, " McQueen. Actually, I was told I would intern for Alexander McQueen before his life crescendoed. The whole thing is a very hard topic for me to talk about because I never met him. His vision is something that my mom and I care about so deeply. He was a true creator. I also have love for Vivienne Westwood and Stella McCartney because I remember my mom opening their garment bags when they arrived at our estate. As far as Versace, my adoration comes from not only the designs, but I also see a strong correlation between Giovanni and Donatella and my sister and I. We are strong, Italian, and stubborn. We, like them, are two sides to one coin."

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Natalia & August Getty (photo credit: Brad Hammer)


As I listen to August talk about his family and his story it all really begins to make sense why he came to be in the position that he is currently. Being surrounded by all the finer things in life is a great start, but is having the Getty last name enough? I took a healthy gulp of wine before I asked August what he would say to people who think he got ahead because of his last name. August very openly responded, "I don't care if people believe me or not. If I were homeless, I would still find a piece of paper and still sketch my heart out. It is not something I can run away from. It's almost as if the part in me that designs is my best friend, a best friend that knows the deepest darkest things about me and helps me release them." Captivated by this profound statement, I ask August what we can expect from his "best friend" in the future. "You can expect sheer elegance, daring sex, and prevailing creativity. There will be no divide between fantasy and reality for the Getty Girl."

As August says this I realize at some point in this interview he had put a wig on me. I look at him and with a hair flip I ask, "What have you done to me?" He replies with a sheepish grin, "Welcome to my reality."

Somehow, Dov Charney Still Has A Job At American Apparel

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What's a guy have to do to get fired by American Apparel?

Over the summer, some members of the board of directors at American Apparel gave founder Dov Charney an ultimatum: Resign or we'll fire you.

The 45-year-old porn-loving executive stood accused of sexually harassing employees, misusing company funds for personal use and allowing nude photos of a former staffer to be posted online. Meanwhile, the company he founded in 1991 was hemorrhaging cash, having amassed nearly $300 million in losses since 2010.

Yet Charney still works for American Apparel.

He has stepped into the vague position of "strategic consultant" and is reportedly visiting stores and doling out instructions to employees, according to a Tuesday report from Bloomberg News. Now, the company's board is considering keeping Charney around longer, albeit not as CEO, Bloomberg reported.

American Apparel declined to comment on Charney's future.

Charney's quest to regain control of the company he founded may yet succeed. After his removal, Charney lawyered up and vowed to fight back against the American Apparel board. A public feud followed. Charney turned to hedge fund Standard General for help, giving it control over his 43 percent stake. The firm pumped $25 million into American Apparel and pushed for changes.

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Businessweek's July 17 cover



Now a band of Charney's allies sits at the top of American Apparel. Many of Charney's deputies remain in powerful executive positions. Interim chief John Luttrell, who according to Bloomberg had quibbles with Charney, was replaced by consultant Scott Brubaker. Only two of the seven-person board that booted Charney survived, and one of Charney's childhood friends was recently added as an eighth board member.

When Charney was ousted, the atmosphere was quite different. American Apparel's board appeared to condemn Charney in a scathing letter published by BuzzFeed in June. They accused him of "willful misconduct" and said that he "continuously failed to substantially perform" his job duties. The cover of Bloomberg Businessweek declared "The Fall of the Sleaze King."

Critics called out American Apparel for taking so long to get rid of Charney, who has a longstanding reputation of being, as The Daily Beast put it, "sexually charged." The former CEO has settled several sexual harassment lawsuits. In 2004, he famously masturbated in front of a reporter. And in June, a video leaked apparently showing Charney dancing naked in front of women, who Gawker reported were his employees.

"It's time to separate the individual from the company," Antony Karabus, CEO of Hilco Retail Consulting, told The Huffington Post at the time.

There's been no such separation.

While all this jostling has gone on behind the scenes, little else has changed at American Apparel. The business, which has struggled in recent years, posted a $16.2 million loss last quarter. Sales remain flat, and the brand still features near-pornographic ads of young women.

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This is American Apparel's current website. It's as raunchy as ever.

'Getting Off on the Right Foot'

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Last [Wednesday]: 8:40 a.m.  Morning ritual with my dog, Huckleberry: 
 
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My train, of course, was at 8:48 a.m.  Won the battle (only lost one bow), but lost the war (ended up driving).  
 
In the height of irony, I was -- believe it or not -- headed off that day to interview two morphmoms, Sandy and Stefani, who've invented a revolutionary new line of shoes.  (Needless to say, at times during the interview, I twisted myself into a veritable pretzel trying to keep my right foot hidden behind my left leg.)
 
Now, I'm a sneaker girl at heart.  And having been at home with three kids for the better part of the last 14 years, the heels were (literally) shelved while the sneaker collection burgeoned.  Moreover, when, a couple of years back, I re-engaged and started to dress for my morphmom interviews in something other than sweats, I found to my shock and dismay that my feet had apparently grown since 1990.  Weird.  Anyway, any hopes of exhuming the old heel collection were quickly dashed; I was forced to, ahem, dip my toe back into the shoe market, circa 2012.  This may sound like a small thing, but to a mom who's been out of the workforce for over a decade, it's just one more barrier to re-entry.
 
Insult to injury, in addition to the dizzying array of fashion choices -- and sticker shock -- that awaited me, I realized that, in cruel contradiction of the laws of physics, it was actually harder to balance on my now-outsized feet.  (OK, maybe I was just out of practice, but still ...)  Wish that I'd met Sandy and Stefani, and that they'd invented "OneClique," back in 2012.  In their absence, I ended up opting for the comfortable, low-slung and (somewhat) up-to-date numbers you see pictured above.  Seemed to go with pretty much anything and, until about 8:45 a.m. or so last [Wednesday], they were at least arguably presentable.  But suffice it to say that, once I was out there on the road, one pair of shoes, however versatile, was simply not enough.
 
So here's the ingenious idea that Sandy and Stefani, in true morphmom fashion, have now succeeded in making a reality: "OneClique"- 17 different shoe tops that "clique" into 20 different shoe bottoms = 340 different shoe combinations.  One-stop shopping for an entire shoe collection at an affordable price. 
 

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Sandy, mother of two, hatched this brilliant idea.  But like so many other nascent morphmoms, she was initially overwhelmed when it came to figuring out the next step.  Her first thought was, "It probably can't be done."  Her second thought, consistent with the lack of confidence that so many of us feel, was, "Even if it could be done, why would I be the one who could do it?"  Shoes?  How does one make shoes? 
 
Thankfully, instead of succumbing to those thoughts, Sandy instead adopted a new mantra: "We can do anything!"  The rest, as they say, is history.
 
Sandy went to work.  Found an artist on Craig's List to design the shoe, developed a prototype, did a ton of research, and found an industrial designer (who loved the idea) and, eventually, a partner: enter Stefani. Sandy met Stefani, who was styling segments for the Today Show, when she gave Sandy a job as part of her stylist team.  Shortly thereafter, Stefani had her first child, a tremendous change for a woman working full-time.  Then Sandy approached her with the concept for "OneClique."  Before long these two moms were on a plane to China, picking fabrics and colors for a shoe collection like none that had ever been seen before, and they never looked back.  A dream had been realized!
 
This is an archetypal morphmom story.  The fear that no one will take your idea seriously, the strength to overcome that fear, the perseverance to research the steps and actually carry them through to fruition, and the tremendous bond that these two women formed in the process of realizing a dream and reawakening to their self-worth.  By overcoming numerous barriers to entry, large and small, these two woman took what started as a simple (if unprecedented) idea and turned it into a massive success that's destined to help countless other moms, themselves ready to begin again, to overcome at least one barrier to re-entry  -- "dressing for success" -- that, if my own experience is any guide, may seem relatively insignificant in the grand scheme of things, but, once hurdled, can go a long way toward infusing that shot of self-confidence that so many of us need to take the next step. 


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"We can do anything!" Sandy's mantra is like a morphmom battle-cry.  There really is nothing that can stand in our way if we work together and help one another.  And I'm confident that, through both their example and their product, Sandy and Stefani are helping legions of morphmoms-in-waiting take their temporarily retired dreams down off the shelf.  
 
 
Please watch their amazing story in their morphmom video, "OneClique" - http://morphmom.com/Videos.htm
 
Please visit their brilliant site -https://oneclique.com- and join the shoe revolution!
    
Photo credits to Lisa Berkery- http://www.lisaberkery.com

Jessica Biel Rocks A Bikini In Hawaii

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Jessica Biel slipped into a bikini for an afternoon at the beach while in Hawaii last weekend.

The 32-year-old was spotted in a two-piece walking along the sand Saturday during a mini vacation to the Aloha State. She slipped on a tank top and shorts after taking a dip in the water.

On Monday, Biel jetted off to see husband Justin Timberlake in Sydney, Australia, where he was performing for his 20/20 Experience World Tour. She was greeted by fans and photographers, who gave her a balloon that read "Welcome back! We missed you."

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Lena Dunham Opens Up About Being A Rape Survivor

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"Girls" creator Lena Dunham writes in her new memoir that she was raped as a 19-year-old college student. Over the course of two chapters, she explains that it took her years to come to terms with what happened and to be able to talk about the complexities of her experience in a way that felt truthful to her.

In the chapter "Girls & Jerks," Dunham recalls an "ill-fated evening of lovemaking" with an infamous on-campus Republican. Describing the lead-up to the incident, she writes: "All I knew when I stumbled home from a party behind him was that he was sullen, thuggish, and a poor loser at poker. How that led to intercourse was a study in the way revulsion can quickly become desire when mixed with the right muscle relaxants."

Dunham goes on to set the scene that unfolds between them in her apartment, during which she thought the man was wearing a condom but later realized he wasn't. The condom, Dunham noticed, was actually hanging from a nearby potted plant.

"I think…? The condom’s…? In the tree?” I muttered feverishly.

“Oh,” he said, like he was as shocked as I was. He reached for it as if he was going to put it back on, but I was already up, stumbling towards my couch, which was the closest thing to a garment I could find. I told him he should probably go, chucking his hoodie and boots out the door with him. The next morning, I sat in a shallow bath for half an hour like someone in one of those coming-of-age movies.


At the beginning of the next chapter, titled "Barry," she backtracks, writing:

I'm an unreliable narrator ... mostly because in another essay in this book I describe a sexual encounter with a mustachioed campus Republican as the upsetting but educational choice of a girl who was new to sex when, in fact, it didn't feel like a choice at all.


She then retells some events from the condom-in-a-tree night in graphic detail.

"Barry leads me to the parking lot," she writes. "I tell him to look away. I pull down my tights to pee, and he jams a few of his fingers inside me, like he’s trying to plug me up. I’m not sure whether I can’t stop it or I don’t want to."

The two then go back to her apartment, and Dunham -- in an attempt to convince herself that she'd given consent -- talks dirty to him as he forces himself on her.

The following day, when Dunham tells her roommate, Audrey, about the encounter, Audrey is horrified by her admission and tells Dunham, "You were raped."

"I burst out laughing," Dunham writes of her initial reaction.

Years later, while sitting in the writer's room of HBO's "Girls," she pitches a "version of the Barry story" to her co-writers. She doesn't call the incident rape, but her co-writers do.

Murray shakes his head. “I just don’t see rape being funny in any situation.”

“Yeah,” Bruce agrees. “It’s a tough one.”

“But that’s the thing,” I say. “No one knows if it’s a rape. It’s, like, a confusing situation that…” I trailed off.

“But I’m sorry that happened to you,” Jenni says. “I hate that.”


Dunham also writes that she struggled with feeling like she was to blame.

I feel like there are fifty ways it's my fault. I fantasized. I took the big pill and the small pill, stuffed myself with substances to make being out in the world with people my own age a little bit easier. I was hungry to be seen. But I also know that at no moment did I consent to being handled that way. I never gave him permission to be rough, to stick himself inside me without a barrier between us. I never gave him permission. In my deepest self I know this, and the knowledge of it has kept me from sinking.


Dunham's memoir, Not That Kind Of Girl: A Young Woman Tells You What She's "Learned," hit book stores Sept. 30.

Need help? In the U.S., visit the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline operated by RAINN. For more resources, visit the National Sexual Violence Resource Center's website.

Maroon 5's 'Animals' Video Slammed By Sexual Assault Support Group

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Maroon 5's dark and bloody new video for "Animals" is being slammed as "dangerous" and called a "stalker's fantasy" by the sexual assault support group RAINN.

In the video, released on Monday, lead singer Adam Levine portrays a bespectacled butcher who, when he's not groping bloody animal carcasses in meat lockers, is stalking a woman (played by his real-life wife Behati Prinsloo). He follows her in the streets, breaks into her home and crawls into bed with her while she sleeps, unaware that he is next to her. Then his fantasy turns into a sexual blood bath.

"Maroon 5's video for "Animals" is a dangerous depiction of a stalker's fantasy — and no one should ever confuse the criminal act of stalking with romance," Katherine Hull Fliflet, RAINN's vice president of communications said in a statement on Wednesday. "The trivialization of these serious crimes, like stalking, should have no place in the entertainment industry."

And RAINN isn't alone in its disgust with the video. Numerous fans took to Twitter following the video's release to express outrage as well. But what's interesting is that "Animals" is the second single off of the band's most recent album "V," which was released at the end of August. If anyone was really listening to the song, perhaps they might have noticed that it pretty much mirrors the video, and tells the equally creepy story of a man who refuses to let go of a past relationship.

"Baby, I'm preying on you tonight / Hunt you down eat you alive," Levine sings. "Maybe you think that you can hide / I can smell your scent from miles / Just like animals."

And in another verse he sings, "Yeah, you can start over, you can run free / You can find other fish in the sea / You can pretend it's meant to be / But you can't stay away from me."

Obsessive lovers have always been a theme in pop music (The Police, Blondie and Maroon 5 -- again), but that doesn't make it any less creepy. And with shows like CBS' "Stalker" further trivializing serious problems, do we really need Adam Levine trying to make stalking look sexy?

Request for comment made to Maroon 5's rep was not immediately returned.

Survivors of sexual assault can contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1.800.656.HOPE and online at rainn.org.

Funkadelic Colors, Bellbottoms, Lace, and Leather at LV Show

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I woke up at 4:00 a.m. EST this morning to watch the livestream of the 2015 Louis Vuitton Spring Collection for women. The show Habitually a beautiful presentation that simultaneously displays art and clothing trends at the same time.

While I didn't feel like I was watching performance art like previous shows, the new creative director Nicolas Ghesquière made it clear that the future of Louis Vuitton Will commence under his direction. Following the excitement from my Twitter and Instagram accounts The newly-opened Louis Vuitton foundation at the Bois de Boulogne was a definite attention-grabber, and a real treat for guests viewing the collection Both within the venue and via livestream.

The show kicks-off in the dark, with a short video showcasing the emotionless faces of the models projected on the screens. This part freaked me out, because similarly to the audience, I too was watching the show in an unlit room while the faces seemingly appeared out of mid-air blinking silently. I felt like I was being "big brothered" but with ultra-beautiful androgynous models. After a few moments passed, they monotonically started to recite a type of mission statement in unison. "The beginning is a very delicate time," was the first sentence Instantly pulling me to the intended ambiance and introducing the new perspective of Louis Vuitton.

From the first look, we are presented with a classic '70s style white eyelet mini-dress, accessorized with a leather belt around the neck and mid-level black boots. No huge stage spectacle like last year's funeral themed runway show (insert link), just a sleek walkway for the return of the catwalk. And basically, that's what all the models did.

As one of the last shows of Paris Fashion Week, Louis Vuitton's ode to their past heavily hinted at the direction that the brand is currently working towards. Ghesquiere's team seemingly focused on an abundance of mini dresses with differing sleeve lengths and fabrics. Both the red and black leather dresses were thrown up against feminine and pleated sheer dresses. They looked sexy, yet so modest, paired with a clunky leather heeled boots and moon-shaped earrings. There were also a lot of styles which embraced the use of bright, funkadelic colors, bellbottoms, lace, and leather, In addition to asymmetrical-type of sequined shirt dresses which were also paired with clunky knee boots.

The collection's accessories were equally refreshing and surprisingly much smaller versions of the traditional Louis Vuitton trunk. I really love the black and red LV monogrammed trunk purses that were definitely flashbacks to previous collections. The geometrical color-blocked satchels were also quite detailed and yet so reminiscent of LV circa the 1974.

It's also interesting to note that only two models of color participated in the show, newcomer Malaika Firth and Veteran model Liya Kebede. While I don't have much information regarding the casting direction, Ms. Kate Moss was also not in attendance either. However, I enjoyed the clothing so much that I really didn't pay attention to the models this time around. However it was nice to see some popular faces in one of the last shows of Paris Fashion Week.

The collection was persuasively confident, as most new creative directors in their debut season try not to shake things up too much. Reinvention and resurfacing of the history of Louis Vuitton was clearly presented with as much modernity as possible. I must confess, I was expecting to see more of an artistic show such as the ones which Marc Jacobs has been delivering for over fifteen years, I will never forget some of his shows which literally made me weep from the drama!

In all, I think there was lots to welcome with the open of the new Foundation, guests were genuinely floored by its Frank Ghery's structural designs. Add a new creative director, and a few superstars to the front row (Hi, Michelle Williams) and you're game to get a winning show. Despite the fact that there were less than fifty looks on this year's runway, it's safe to assume that Ghesquière is bringing back a colorful, brighter future to the House of Louis Vuitton.

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Case Of Muslim Woman Denied Job At Abercrombie & Fitch To Go Before Supreme Court

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The U.S. Supreme Court on Thursday said it would consider whether a Muslim woman denied a job at an Abercrombie & Fitch Co clothing store because she wears a head scarf was required to specifically request a religious accommodation.

The nine justices agreed to hear an appeal filed in the closely watched case by the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, a federal agency that sued the company on behalf of Samantha Elauf. She was denied a sales job at an Abercrombie Kids store in Tulsa, Oklahoma in 2008.

Elauf, who was 17 at the time, was wearing a head scarf – or hijab – at the job interview but did not specifically say that, as a Muslim, she wanted the company to give her a religious accommodation. The company denied Elauf the job on the grounds that wearing the scarf violated its "look policy" for members of the sales staff.

A federal district judge ruled in favor of Elauf and the government, but in an October 2013 ruling the Denver-based 10th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals found that Elauf was required to ask for an accommodation.

A ruling is expected by the end of June. The case is EEOC v. Abercrombie & Fitch, U.S. Supreme Court, No. 14-86.

Dog In A Hoodie Eats Breakfast With A Spoon, Because He's Cool Like That

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This is a dog having breakfast.

Oh, and he's wearing a hoodie. And he has human hands.

At least, that's what he'd like you to think.






Neither this video nor the concept of dogs with hands eating things is new, but this clip is tickling netizens everywhere this week as it experiences a viral resurgence.

"I am dying right now," declared one Facebook user Thursday after watching the video via a post by South African radio station Algoa FM.

"I know its silly but it's got me giggling like nobody's business," quipped another.

Om nom nom nom.

Maybe the best gif you've seen all day

Afro-Textured Hair: Beautiful and Magical or Nappy Heads in Need of Perminators?

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The Gift of Afro-Textured Hair

It sickens me to even repeat the hate speech parading as music in Nikki Minaj's song "Stupid H**" which includes the line "little nappy headed h*** need a perminator," but I do so in order to demonstrate the ubiquity of hair-bullying against women and girls of African descent. The bullying occurs in the media when Don Imus or hip hop artists use such abusive language. It occurs on television talk shows where straight hair is consistently presented as the beautiful, worthy, sexy and attractive hair, while curly, kinky, bushy and or frizzy hair is presented as the hair that needs fixing. Bushy hair is usually the "before" photo and rarely the "after" photo. We live in a society where racism is often subtle, consisting of such micro-aggressions that collectively attempt to kill black women's spirits.

But this type of hair-bullying is not just present in the media. It is present in our homes as learned self-hatred manifests in comments to little girls with looser textures that they have "pretty hair," while little girls with kinkier hair textures are told that they have "bad hair." Moreover, it manifests into physical abuse as mothers put toxic chemicals on the hair of children barely out of diapers in order to have their daughters avoid the scorn that Blue Ivy endured.


How Do We Overcome This Hair-Bullying?


My fable, Sunne's Gift: How Sunne Overcame Bullying to Reclaim God's Gift, is about overcoming bullying in order to step into one's true power to illuminate the world. In my new multi-media series entitled The Gift, I will speak to thought leaders about strategies for overcoming various types of bullying in order to reclaim "the gift."2014-09-26-20140709SunneCoverthumb.jpg

My first topic is hair-bullying as it relates to afro-textured hair. I had the pleasure of speaking to Lurie Favors, the genius behind the book and blog Afro-State of Mind, and she provided a four step process to overcome hair-bullying with respect to afro-textured hair. Here is my summary of the steps outlined by Lurie Favors.

Step 1: Educate Yourself
The hair-bullying is not rooted in any inherent idea that afro-textured hair looks ugly. Clearly, afro-textured hair looks absolutely beautiful. Just check out Afros: A Celebration of Natural Hair. The hair-bullying is rooted in a white supremacist culture that aims at making anything and everything associated with Africans and black people bad in order to justify slavery, colonization and the economic/physical domination of people of African descent. How else would perfectly normal people engage in the horrors of slavery in the past or racist aggressions today? Propaganda had to be created to convince otherwise nice people that Africans were hardly people and that African skin and African hair were unworthy. Similarly, during Nazi Germany, wicked propaganda was spread about the Jews and anything associated with Jews. How else would perfectly normal German people murder their Jewish neighbors? Reading history will allow anyone to understand this ploy for what it is.2014-10-01-KarenTappin.jpgThis glorious afro is nothing but gorgeous! Courtesy of Michael July's AFROS: A Celebration of Natural Hair featuring Karen Tappin

Step 2: Paradigm Shift
Once you have realized the ploy, it is time to think back to what life was like prior to the birth of white supremacy. Pre-slavery and colonization, were black women in Africa bemoaning their hair? Were they looking for berries or chemicals to make their hair bone straight? Absolutely not! They used products and wide toothed combs to engage in styles such as afros, braids, cornrows, thread wraps, shaved designs and locs. They did not view their afro-textured hair through a straight-haired lens. It's time to get back to that celebration and the African-centered or Afro state of mind that enabled the celebration.

Step 3: Be Vigilant
The hair-bullying might still be present in the world unfortunately. That said, you must remain vigilant with respect to the images and words that you allow into your sacred mental and emotional space. You must surround yourself with support and affirmation of your beauty and the beauty of your hair through what you read and who you are around. Websites such as Afro State of Mind, Tribe Called Curl, My Natural Reality, NaturallyHappyHair.Com, Boston Naturals, 4C Hair Chick and Locs Revolution will help. Avoid mainstream magazines that do not respect your beauty. Avoid "hair porn" featuring looser textures of hair. Avoid media, music and individuals who denigrate you.

Step 4: Organize
The natural hair movement must go beyond hair tips. It must go beyond simply reacting to stories of hair-bullying such as the stories of Vanessa Van Dyke, Tiana Parker, Rhonda Lee, Tiffany Bryan and the army hair guidelines. The final step consists of forming effective organizations and coalitions that protect our social and economic interests. We must proactively teach mainstream culture and institutions that we have zero tolerance for hair-bullying.

Trust me, my time with Lurie was amazing. She is hilarious and we healed from our trauma through wonderful laugh therapy. See the video below. You will love it! Email me at milestalespublishing@gmail.com if you have an inherent gift for which you have been bullied and you would like to discuss it through my series. Check out my website at www.milestales.com to learn more about Sunne's Gift.

In Less Than A Minute, Roxane Gay Ends The Debate Over Beyoncé's Feminism

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"Dear women who are against feminism: You don't need to be and, in fact, you are probably very feminist."

That's how author and self-proclaimed "bad feminist" Roxane Gay starts her Now This Rant addressing women who think they aren't feminists. She discusses how the feminist movement has actually allowed these women to have this "incorrect opinion" and that educating yourself on these topics is crucial.

She explains that things aren't always cut-and-dry when it comes to feminism because it's a complex movement that -- after the basic principle of equality -- is a very nuanced identity that each person defines for themselves and in their own lives.

"I'm a bad feminist because I openly acknowledge that I'm a feminist," she says. "I'm proud to be a feminist, but I'm not always great at it."

Gay uses Beyoncé as an example of someone whose feminist credentials have been questioned, stating that she's "no longer entertaining the question, 'Is Beyoncé a feminist?' because I have nothing relevant to say about that topic. [Beyoncé]'s a feminist because she says [she's] one."

At the end of the day, a woman is a feminist because she wants to identify as one. Whether someone likes or doesn't like her particular brand of feminism shouldn't take away from the work she's doing to achieve gender equality.

As Gay points out, Beyoncé's a "great feminist" who "happens to be sexy" and no longer wears pants. It's all about freedom of choice, right?

Dianna Agron Goes Topless For NSFW Photoshoot

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You're definitely not used to seeing Dianna Agron like this.

The "Glee" star surprised her 2 million Twitter followers with a topless photo on Wednesday. The sexy shot, taken by photographer Brian Bowen Smith, features Agron with slicked-back, platinum blond hair:




The photo also appears to reveal a new tattoo on Agron's side, though it's hard to tell whether the ink is permanent. The 28-year-old already has several tattoos, including lines of text on her torso and hearts on her inner wrist.

There's no telling exactly what the shoot is for, but Agron announced via Twitter on Thursday that she has another surprise coming soon:




So, keep your mouse on that refresh button, y'all!

Skincare Tips for the Changing Seasons

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By Tara Weng for GalTime.com

Where I live, the weather changes faster than the elite runners at the Boston Marathon, especially this time of year.

One minute, I'm in flip flops, the next minute I'm covering myself in blankets and pulling out sweaters that most likely smell like moth balls.

In addition to the wardrobe changes, my skin definitely takes a hit.

My once ultra-shiny forehead (this I don't miss) is replaced with dry, patchy spots and I usually have to revamp my cleanser, moisturizer, etc.

In this vein I'm not alone. New York dermatologist and author of the book Skin Rules Dr. Debra Jaliman says changing seasons definitely means changing skin and offers up her expertise on the topic.

"It's important to change cleansers as we go from summer into fall. For example, from an exfoliating one to a mild one. So avoid ingredients with glycolic or salicylic acid which would be more drying. It's better to make these changes before winter starts in the fall so it gives your skin a chance to adjust.You can also change the weight of your moisturizer. So change from a serum to a lotion or a cream. The same with the sunscreen and your anti-aging products."

In my case I've noticed that I tend to go "lighter" in terms of moisturizer in the summer -- since I sweat a lot of it off. When the temperature starts to dip I slather on a sufficient amount of cream (particularly at night) to avoid the dryness in my face.

"When the weather changes the skin gets drier and flakier and can even get red. If you want to reverse sun damage you can use products with retinol every night. Best to use ones with hyaluronic acid, so your skin doesn't get dry.

They will improve fine lines, improve texture and even skin color (even out brown discoloration). You can even use niacin, which will also reverse sun damage as well. Always use a broad spectrum sunscreen that blocks UVA/UVB rays SPF 30. Look for zinc oxide, titanium dioxide or mexoryl."

Dr. Jaliman also cautions that you pay special attention to skin changes. These variations in texture, look and feel could indicate a trip beyond your local drug store.

"If you notice areas of your skin that are really dark, irregularly bordered, bleed, itch or changes that you don't like aesthetically and can't reverse with products see a dermatologist. There are so many modalities available like lasers, IPL (intense pulsed light), light peels, microdermabrasion ) which can really make a difference."

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7 Things Almost As Amazing As Removing Your Bra At The End Of The Day

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At the end of every day, a moment of absolute bliss occurs -- when I take off my bra. In one clasp (or unclasp, as it were), I release the tension of the day and begin to unwind.

I thought I was alone in feeling this way, but all it took was a quick ask to realize that anyone with a pair of breasts can commiserate. When I tried to describe the feeling to those who have never experienced it, I came up short with descriptors. That's where the imagination and talents of a graphic artist come in.

Here, seven things almost as amazing as removing your bra at the end of the day:

1. Riding a unicorn.



2. Jumping into a pool of milk chocolate.



3. Being kissed by an angel.



4. Discovering that you have superpowers.



5. Cuddling with 100 fluffy puppies.



6. Discovering that platform 9 3/4 actually exists.



7. Having A bottomless glass of rosé.


All animations by Eva Hill.

High School Uses Clips From 'Pretty Woman' To Show Students How Not To Dress

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Several media outlets are accusing a North Dakota high school of "slut shaming" female students by allegedly comparing them to Vivian Ward.

Devils Lake High School principal Ryan Hanson told The Huffington Post that female students at the school were given an assembly last week to teach them about the school’s dress code and the various ways in which one’s appearance can impact their image. During the assembly, two female teachers showed students clips of "Pretty Woman," a movie in which the main character played by Julia Roberts is a prostitute. After the clips, a teacher leading the assembly reportedly compared the female students to Robert’s character, according to local outlet Valley News Live.

“'[Pretty Woman]' was used in two small clips, one where Julia Roberts is scantily clad and walks into a store and they basically admonish her and say this probably isn’t the store for you,” Hanson said told HuffPost. “The next clip showed her after a makeover, dressed to the nines really looking appropriate. She goes into the same store and they treat her much differently.”

Hanson said the purpose of the clips were to show students that “you are in charge of the image you project to others and how you want to be perceived,” and he denied that a teacher ever compared students to prostitutes. However, he admitted that, “'Pretty Woman' was a poor choice to use for the movie clips.”

The school held the assembly for female students amid a slew of violations of the schools dress code, which encourages girls to refrain from wearing overly tight yoga pants, leggings and tights, he said.

“Basically, it's kind of like boys a few years ago wore pants really low, to see their underwear,” Hanson said of the school’s dress code. “It’s similar now with the leggings and yoga pants that are so tightly worn you could see through them … at that point you’re not wearing pants anymore.”

Several students and a parent spoke out against the dress code to Valley News Live.

"A lot of the parents went on Facebook and we were discussing it,” said local parent Candace Olsen to the outlet. “They were talking about how they think the boys should be able to control themselves and the girls should be able to wear the leggings and the jeggings … when I was in high school, I think we wore a little bit more provocative clothing."

One student also noted that male teachers are not allowed to tell female students when they are in violation of the dress code, and that male teachers must get a female teacher to the student of her transgression.

Hanson denied this charge. He said that male teachers are allowed to tell female students if they violated the dress code, although “its just an uncomfortable situation.”

Phyllis Kadyrmas, a female teacher who led the "Pretty Woman" assembly for students, said she thinks the whole situation has been overblown, according to the Devils Lake Journal.

“It was a stressful thing and I’ve taught a long time and been through a lot of battles,” said Kadyrmas on the controversy. “We just wanted a visual example of the way you dress is -- how people percieve you.”

Joyous Village People-Themed Proposal Would Make Anyone Say 'Yes'

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Using a hidden camera in your marriage proposal is a risky move; there's always the chance that what you catch on tape may not be all that wonderful. This is not one of those cases.

During Electric Picnic -- a music and arts festival in Ireland -- a man decided to propose to his boyfriend Babbins with a little help from from the folks at "The Fear," an Irish television show known for hidden camera pranks.

Naturally, they recorded the whole thing and posted it to YouTube, and we couldn't be happier about it.

Here's how it goes down: when the proposal kicks off, the unsuspecting Babbins quickly begins to say, "Don't, don't, don't." Just when you think the proposal is botched, the two are interrupted by another man -- wearing what looks like a onesie for adults -- who bluntly asks, "Are you proposing to him?"

Then the fun begins. The onesie-wearing man starts belting out the words "say yes" to the tune of the Village People's "Go West." The song and the proposal just get better from there -- watch it above.

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